would<\/em> have been like, had she been here. There were times I’d see other kids playing in the cul-de-sac but I couldn’t because my grandparents were always working.”<\/h3>\nEborn was raised by her maternal grandparents, whom she called “mom and dad.” “Even though I was raised in love and care and because of it, I had a normal life \u2014 but, as a child, I constantly felt like something was missing. I don’t trust people until they earn my trust,” she muses.<\/p>\n
But, thanks to her “mom and dad” and multiple other family members who stepped in to help with her care, she never went without. That, along with regular visits with social workers, helped her overcome what had happened to her so early in her life. “We have all read stories on what could happen. The children are harmed, forgotten or traumatized for the rest of their lives. I’m glad this wasn’t me,” she laments.<\/p>\n
Eborn also developed an affinity for professional wrestling and characters like Stone Cold Steve Austin<\/strong> became a colorful escape from the confines of her life. Those people she saw on the screen almost became like the nuclear family she was missing. “I was captivated,” she shares.<\/p>\nAs it turned out, this man who allegedly ripped a new mom away from her newborn child, and robbed Eborn of any life with her, had murdered others too and was convicted for those crimes. He will spend the remainder of his days in a Nevada prison. However, Eborn says, some 30 years later, he has yet to be brought to justice for her mother’s murder. “My mother was stolen from us. Yet, the date of his trial continues to be pushed back,” says Eborn. “The system has continued to fail us.”<\/p>\n
An apology that came years later from the man offered Eborn little solace. “He sent us a Christmas card from jail and told me he was sorry for his actions, showing fake care and fake concern.”<\/p>\n
Once Eborn entered her late teens, thinking she’d left the childhood trauma behind, the teenager knew she wanted to go into criminal justice to become like those who’d helped to catch her mother’s killer.<\/p>\n
Only, at 21 years old, she’d be brutalized yet again. “I woke up one night to a man standing over me with a condom on. This was someone I knew. He raped me without saying a word, then got up and left,” she explains. At the time, Eborn didn’t tell anyone about the rape and didn’t talk about it for seven years. “I didn’t report it because I didn’t feel anyone would believe me,” she says.<\/p>\n
The assault set Eborn on a new path. She changed her major to psychology and became a rape crisis counselor. After graduating from California Baptist University, she worked in various mental health facilities and has since successfully combined her love of mental health with trauma support into a life mission.<\/p>\n
Several years ago, when she was looking to launch a podcast, someone referred to her as “the trauma queen,” and the name stuck. “Trauma queen is who I feel like I’ve always been striving to be,” she laments. “A strong Black woman who is a fighter. Someone who shows up for others as a survivor and an ally.”<\/p>\n
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